What fascinates me is how a person can be so two-faced? In front of others, she is this very gregarious, lively and multi-talented, high-functional and social type. But i have seen on many occasions how inconsiderate she is towards people closest to her. She will be heavily involved in social work and keep telling others, but if her friend is dying or is sick, she is least bothered. She posts her life updates on facebook but has no time to reply to people whom she claims matters to her..
How can one reconcile this contradiction on a psychological level?