One of the most common types of self-deception is self-enhancement. Psychologists have traditionally argued we evolved to overestimate our good qualities because it makes us feel good. But feeling good on its own has no bearing on survival or reproduction. Another assertion is self-enhancement boosts motivation, leading to greater accomplishment. But if motivation were the goal, then we would have just evolved to be more motivated, without the costs of reality distortion.
Matthew Hutson | 3Scientific American
Donald Trump spent more than a year rousing crowds with a simple promise: “I’ll build a great, great wall on our southern border, and I will have Mexico pay for that wall.” As the campaign wore on, it got so he could ask “Who’s gonna pay for the wall?” and the audience would roar, “Mexico!”
It was fun while it lasted. But now, in the cold light of day, some facts are coming into focus: It may not exactly be a wall. It won’t be paid for by Mexico. And it may not get built.
Steve Chapman | Reason.com
Facebook no doubt wants to be the personal assistant at all levels for consumers. However, like all the companies I’m going to mention, they have a data problem. This problem does not mean they don’t have a lot of data — quite the contrary. Facebook has a tremendous amount of data. However, they have a lot of the wrong kind of data to deliver a highly personalized artificial assistant for every area of your life.
Ben Bajarin | Tech.pinions
Finally I am coming to the conclusion that my highest ambition is to be what I already am. That I will never fulfill my obligation to surpass myself unless I first accept myself–and if I accept myself fully in the right way I will already have surpassed myself.
I think back to the friend who told me that I seemed like two different people online and in real life. It really surprised me. I always assumed that I was in control of the image of myself I presented to new audiences. But the truth may be entirely opposite. Our audience is our identity.
Derek Thompson | 1843Magazine
My low point came after my divorce.
I felt like the world was ending, and I couldn’t get my engine started. And sometimes I didn’t even try.
I had failed, and I couldn’t change a thing (or so I thought). I kept thinking, “Is it really over?” I was sinking, and my air was running out.
The worst part of all was facing my kids and my former wife. You could see a numbness in their eyes. And it hurt. It really hurt.
Dan Drew | TheChangeBlog
We’re very excited about these findings as this theory completely overturns conventional wisdom.
You might think that birds choose mates arbitrarily if they are promiscuous, but most individuals prefer a certain type, just as some humans might prefer blonde or dark hair in a partner.
Tamás Székely | Phys.org
I was interested in the idea that if it takes you a long time to master
That’s what interested me—the context. If we’re all naturals, then the context in which we perform what we do is irrelevant. If you’re born being able to be a scratch golfer, then why do we need to spend money developing young golfers? But actually, not only does it take a long time to get good, even if you’re really talented to begin with, it takes an incredibly long time.
Malcolm Gladwell | Heleo.com
Our minds were not designed to multitask. When we attempt to do so, something has to give. One of the first tasks to go is our ability to regulate our emotions, and so we end up behaving more aggressively toward others. We also aren’t able to maintain a sense of calm and balance by reassuring ourselves and keeping things in perspective, and end up with that familiar feeling of being frazzled and overwhelmed. Multitasking triggers a “danger” alert, because on some level our brains detect being over-burdened as a threat. Reducing our cognitive burden frees up our mental resources so that we can remember to be kind and reasonable in our interactions, and remain calmer, rather than feeling frazzled.
Bodhipaksa | WildMind.org