One reason why human communication is such a challenge, especially on the spiritual path, is that you tend to get drawn into other people’s worlds when interacting with them. If you live with someone who is intensely fearful, for example, someone who inhabits the ego’s world of war and terror, that fear will resonate with whatever remains of that fear in you. It may be years since you left that world, but it hasn’t quite left you yet. And so whenever you interact with someone who is basically quivering in the trenches, while you are in relative peace and quiet, it pulls you in and amplifies your own fear.
Even when I was wrapped up in addiction and eating disorders, I was selfish. My suffering made me selfish, and my selfishness made me suffer. Yes, I was traumatized. Yes, I’d been hurt. But I cared for no one except myself. People only meant as much to me as the emotions they could produce in me. I saw no one deeply, especially not myself, and I never, ever had enough of anything.
It’s like I made myself suffer from this constant need I felt to preserve myself. I needed to preserve myself financially and emotionally and physically. I needed to fix myself and keep myself whole. I needed to keep making my inadequate self, good enough.
I think what is truly rewarding about serving the world is this – by giving my time, money, love, sweat, blood, patience, attention, by giving it every day as much as I can, I presuppose that there is more than enough to go around.
When I approach my work and my life from this awareness, I realize that I am deeply connected with everything and everyone around me. That is who I am. When I give to people, I give to myself. When I give to myself, I give to people. There is no boundary between us when it comes to love. To love me and to love you is the same. It is all an act of unconditional service.
… The doctor’s theory was that, in modern life, our ancient fight-or-flight mechanism was being triggered too frequently—in traffic jams, meetings with our bosses, etc.—and that this was contributing to the epidemic of heart disease. Even if the confrontations were themselves minor, our bodies didn’t know that; they reacted as if they were in kill-or-be-killed scenarios, releasing toxic stress chemicals into the bloodstream. The doctor had done studies showing that meditation could reverse the effects of stress and lower blood pressure—which the hypochondriac in me found deeply appealing.
Dan Harris in 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works–A True Story
Youtube – Sarah McLachlan – Building a mistery
“Building a Mystery” is a song by Sarah McLachlan, from her multi-platinum album Surfacing, first released in 1997. At a live performance, Sarah explains the song as being
basically about the fact that we all… have insecurities to hide, and we often do that by putting on a facade.
She also goes on to say that
unfortunately, if we just be who we are, that’s usually the more attractive and beautiful thing
Too much trouble. Linda Newlin has got it much more clear. I read her article this afternoon and in the evening I came across with the movie Pretty Woman. And it’s always nice to see Julia Roberts. In one of the stops for publicity, I started with the laptop and the bookmark of Newlin’s article magically appeared. Minutes later I heard Richard Gere saying in the film:
but I want you to understand…
I heard everything you said.